Are You My Boyfriend or Not?
We have all been in a situation where we have been led on by someone and they have no regards for our energy or the time that we give them. It is easy to look away when this behavior happens and ignore it because we want them to love us.
It is time to take a step back and find out if your relationship is important or not. If you are doubting if they love you or not, then chances are you probably already know the answer.
Secure
If you get the feeling that your guy is not wanting to spend time with you or if they are only there for late night sex, then they probably are not going to make you feel secure.
Chances are that this person is not giving you time or attention you need, and they are not your boyfriend.
Sell Yourself
You should never have to sell who you are to someone or show someone how good you are. He should already know what kind of person you are and want to know more about you. If you have to sell yourself then you are with someone that is not meant to be with you, and you deserve better.
Game
Guys that are immature will play a game with you. They will promise a good life with you, but they will never take a step to make your future happen. If you bring it up later, he will change the subject and talk about your sexual appeal.
A real boyfriend will make plans and set dates with you and be in charge of the evening to make sure you are happy and having fun.
Showing Up
A real boyfriend will be there for you no matter what. They will celebrate you and all of your victories. They will remember things such as your birthday and your anniversary. They will shower you with gifts for the holiday and make you feel special.
Even things with your family will be important to this guy and he will want to always show up. If you aren’t getting that attention, notice and move forward.
Excuses
He will never make excuses for not being there for you. If you have a Christmas party at your mom’s, he will be there. He will complement your family for their dinner and hospitality, and he will love to be with you.
He will not try to leave right after he gets there, and he will be passionate about knowing you and your family. You will be there for him and he will be there for you. That is a real relationship.
If your guy cannot deal with your family then let him go. Find someone that loves you for everything about you.
Conclusion
You should never have to question if a guy is your boyfriend or not. If you have to ask yourself that, move on with someone that respects you and loves you for who you are.
‘If he doesn’t love your family…’ Wow, so much pressure! What if he’s just shy or not ready yet? Relationships take time; jumping ship over family dynamics seems a bit hasty!
‘A real boyfriend will shower you with gifts’? Seriously? That sounds like materialism disguised as relationship advice! Relationships should be based on mutual respect, not on what one can give or receive materially.
While I see where you’re coming from, this article seems to generalize men as players and immature beings. There are plenty of good guys out there who do care deeply about their partners. Let’s not paint everyone with the same brush.
This post seems like it’s preaching basic relationship fundamentals as if they’re groundbreaking revelations! If only relationships were so straightforward… but alas, reality has other plans!
“Exactly! It’s absurd to think we need to market ourselves in relationships. Authenticity should be the priority; if they don’t see your value naturally, maybe they’re not worth your time at all!”
Honestly, this post is a bit too simplistic. Relationships are complex, and sometimes people need time to grow or learn. Just because someone isn’t perfect doesn’t mean they’re not worth it. Not everything is black and white.
“A real boyfriend will remember your birthday”—how revolutionary! What next? Telling us water is wet? This advice feels overly obvious and somewhat condescending.
“Find someone that loves you for everything about you”—so profound! Next, you’ll tell me to breathe air or eat food for sustenance. Relationships are complicated; just stating the obvious won’t help anyone navigate them better.
“Stating the obvious” can sometimes be what people need to hear! Clarity isn’t always a bad thing; perhaps we should focus on finding healthier dynamics instead of dismissing good advice.
This article provides some valuable insights into recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns. I appreciate the clarity it brings to the signs of immaturity in partners. It’s crucial for everyone to reflect on their relationships honestly.
I find it ironic that this article claims we shouldn’t have to ‘sell’ ourselves, yet it seems like it’s trying to sell an idealized version of love that doesn’t really exist in real life.
‘Basic human decency’? That’s rich coming from someone who likely avoids any commitment themselves!
‘Idealized version’? You mean basic human decency? It’s not a fairy tale—everyone should strive for respect and attention in their relationships!
Honestly, this post feels overly simplistic. Relationships are complex, and it’s not always easy to know someone’s true intentions. Not every situation can be categorized into ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ Life isn’t that black and white.