Dating Advice
Are You My Boyfriend or Not?

Are You My Boyfriend or Not?

We have all been in a situation where we have been led on by someone and they have no regards for our energy or the time that we give them. It is easy to look away when this behavior happens and ignore it because we want them to love us.

It is time to take a step back and find out if your relationship is important or not. If you are doubting if they love you or not, then chances are you probably already know the answer.


If you get the feeling that your guy is not wanting to spend time with you or if they are only there for late night sex, then they probably are not going to make you feel secure.

Chances are that this person is not giving you time or attention you need, and they are not your boyfriend.

Sell Yourself

You should never have to sell who you are to someone or show someone how good you are. He should already know what kind of person you are and want to know more about you. If you have to sell yourself then you are with someone that is not meant to be with you, and you deserve better.


Guys that are immature will play a game with you. They will promise a good life with you, but they will never take a step to make your future happen. If you bring it up later, he will change the subject and talk about your sexual appeal.

A real boyfriend will make plans and set dates with you and be in charge of the evening to make sure you are happy and having fun.

Showing Up

A real boyfriend will be there for you no matter what. They will celebrate you and all of your victories. They will remember things such as your birthday and your anniversary. They will shower you with gifts for the holiday and make you feel special.

Even things with your family will be important to this guy and he will want to always show up. If you aren’t getting that attention, notice and move forward.


He will never make excuses for not being there for you. If you have a Christmas party at your mom’s, he will be there. He will complement your family for their dinner and hospitality, and he will love to be with you.

He will not try to leave right after he gets there, and he will be passionate about knowing you and your family. You will be there for him and he will be there for you. That is a real relationship.

If your guy cannot deal with your family then let him go. Find someone that loves you for everything about you.


You should never have to question if a guy is your boyfriend or not. If you have to ask yourself that, move on with someone that respects you and loves you for who you are.

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