What is a Soulmate?
It is hard to understand what a soulmate truly is. This is because we all adhere to the romantic definition of the word, wherein we find an expected, yet perfect, match. We believe this even though we know it doesn’t exist. This is perfect because we get the perfect mate without trying.
It is incredibly frustrating to wait for the person we are destined to be with, but it is very easy.
The patience of waiting for the love of our life is a metaphor of our lives. We want to do the least amount of work possible and find situations that are acceptable if not outstanding, because who wants to work too hard at a relationship?
Unfortunately, when you find the one you are meant to be with, it will not be at all easy. This is because their work in your life is to excavate the real you that you carry inside.
Your soulmate will recognize the real you and they will help you see what has been holding you back. This will require you to do some soul searching and self-esteem building. It may feel like you have been torn down only to be built back up. As much as destruction as they bring, they are truly a gift to you. They will love you and change you by putting a mirror up to who you really are. They will not be afraid to challenge you and your ideas. This will not be fun. In fact, it will more than likely be painful.
This exposure will be confusing and make you feel vulnerable. You will be pushed out of your comfort zone so that you can grow to develop your inner strength. This is scary because we want to have our comfort and are resistant to change. Yet when we stand up and go through the process of change, we can find the joy of our true love. This gives us the kind of comfort and joy we have never experienced before.
When we see past our own egos, we will be less afraid. We will have more courage than we ever thought possible. We will see truth. Everyday we pass people who may change your world simply by existing. It is unknown when or how we will connect with them, and this surprise is what makes life worth living. This is encouraging because if you don’t think you are important, think how you unknowingly affect each person you meet. You have the power to change another’s life. You could be the person that helps someone transform their whole world.
This post is quite informative! The way it outlines the process of personal growth through relationships gives a new perspective on love. It makes you think about how we can positively impact each other’s lives.
‘Soulmates are meant to challenge us’—what a cliché! This idea sounds more like an excuse for toxic relationships than genuine love. Not every struggle leads to enlightenment, sometimes it just leads to heartbreak!
*Exactly!* This metaphor feels more like an excavation site than a relationship filled with love and joy.
‘Love will be painful’? Seriously? Maybe some people just want to enjoy their relationship without all these metaphors about destruction and rebuilding.
While I appreciate the sentiment, I find the notion that soulmates must tear us down a bit extreme. Shouldn’t love be uplifting? Why must we suffer for growth? There’s got to be a better way!
You both have valid points, but I think growth often comes from discomfort. It’s about balance—finding someone who challenges you without breaking you down.
I think you’re missing the point! The author isn’t saying pain is the only path but rather a part of deeper connection.
This post offers a deep insight into love and relationships that many people overlook! The idea of seeing oneself through another’s eyes is powerful and transformative. It’s not just romance; it’s personal growth.
‘The joy of true love’—this article romanticizes what is essentially emotional labor disguised as relationship advice. Love shouldn’t feel like an uphill battle; it should flow naturally and bring joy without excessive struggle.
But isn’t it true that growth often comes from discomfort? We shouldn’t dismiss the idea just because it’s challenging!